Matthew 18:21-35
The business services company Experian last year reported that the average American debt for individuals had reached $104,755.
- And here’s how the company said Americans’ average debt breaks out by generation:
- Generation Z: $34,328
- Millennials: $132,280
- Generation X: $158,105
- Baby boomers: $92,619
- Silent Generation: $38,460
At the same time…a foundation that keeps track of U.S. national debt reported that as of the end of 2025…
- The federal government was more than $38 trillion (with a t) in debt.
- One million seconds = 11 days.
- One billion seconds = 31 years.
- One trillion seconds = 31 thousand years.
- My…OWE…my.
- The Lord be with you.
If we read today’s Gospel of Matthew story in a literal way…should all this personal and national debt be forgiven?
- To answer that…let’s think about what is really going on here in this teaching of Jesus…as Matthew records it.
- And it helps to remember the Jewish context in which Jesus lived…that he lived under Roman rule.
That is…the story from Matthew we read today is found only in Matthew…
- And that the debt in question probably has nothing to do with material wealth.
- Rather…the talents refer to spiritual goods rather than physical ones.
- So…Matthew is linking debt to sin.
- And in doing so…Jewish scholars point out…the translators are simply recognizing that the Aramaic word hob can mean both debt and sin.
So…let us not get…buried in the weeds…by the idea that the king…in the story…
- Was being generous to forgive a huge financial debt someone owed him.
- Rather…let’s think of how he had been somehow wronged by his slave…
- But was willing to forgive him for that.
- When that slave…then…failed to forgive wrongs done to him by another slave…
- The king learned about it… and…handed him over to be tortured until he would pay his entire debt.
Jesus then adds that God will treat us that way if we do not forgive others…
- Not seven times…as Peter first suggests…but 77 times…
- Meaning…an infinite number.
You know…though? The idea of forgiveness is complex.
- Forgiveness can be risky…it can be painful…it can be…and often is…necessary…
- But if we think it’s always an easy matter…we are mistaken.
- And I think…this is why…in Matthew’s passage…Jesus might sound a bit like an angry parent…
- Who threatens dire consequences if a child will not forgive.
Forgiveness is not easy and it is complicated.
- Though…Jesus is right to tell us that forgiveness and reconciliation is desirable…and should be our goal.
- But if we do not appreciate the complexities of forgiveness…we can injure an already injured person even more.
For instance…no one but the victim has a right to offer forgiveness to the person who injured that victim.
- You cannot be the one to offer forgiveness to the thief who broke into your neighbor’s house.
- And forgiveness cannot be received effectively if the perpetrator has not done the required prior work…
- Including acknowledging that what he or she did was wrong and why.
- And often it takes a great amount of work on the part of the victim…
- To be able to get to a point at which offering forgiveness is even possible.
You may remember the almost-instant forgiveness that the Amish community offered to the man who murdered five Amish girls at a school in Nickel Mines…Pennsylvania…in 2006.
- Well…once people understood a foundational motive for that immediate forgiveness…
- The act became even more problematic…
- Because…the Amish believed that if they did not forgive…
- They themselves would not be forgiven by God…
- And that would jeopardize their chances for an eternal relationship with God.
- A harsh way of putting it…is that they did not forgive as an act of charity…
- But as an act of self-interest.
- They forgave so as not to risk a chance of going to heaven.
Concerning the long-running priest abuse scandal in the Catholic Church…something even more complicated is at work.
- For not only must forgiveness be a transaction between the victim and perpetrator…
- But it also needs…somehow…to involve the whole church.
- It was church leadership negligence…after all…that created the circumstances under which continued abuse was possible…
- Moving the offending priests to new assignments within the church.
- So…the leaders of the church…must become part of the forgiveness process.
- And…we have seen…some…efforts by church leaders…to take on the responsibility…to express regret and seek forgiveness.
- Forgiveness can and should be liberating…
- But not if we do it on the cheap.
- Finally…there is no iPhone app for it.
Consider…the 3,000 families who lost someone in the 2001 9/11 terrorist attacks.
- Were they supposed to forgive the dead terrorists?
- How were they supposed to accomplish that?
- Were they to offer forgiveness to the people who orchestrated the attacks…
- And who…later…wound up incarcerated…for years…in the prison on Guantanamo Bay?
- And how could they offer forgiveness…when there was no formal and final judgment…of who was guilty of what? (Oh…Our good friends in Saudi Arabia).
All of that said…Jesus asks us to forgive others…even as he modeled doing that from the cross…by asking God to forgive the people crucifying him…
- Because…as the Gospel of Luke quotes Jesus…they do not know what they are doing.
- Jesus also knew that true forgiveness is a generative…healing act…
- Both for the one being forgiven…and for the one doing the forgiving.
- Carrying grudges around can be a heavy burden for all of us…
- And if we can find a way to set that load down…we will be healthier and stronger.
- One way to give ourselves permission to offer forgiveness is to think about the people who hurt us…the way God thinks about them.
So…is the God of love looking down on a sinful world in need of salvation?
- Or does our God see a broken world in pain and in need of healing?
- We know that a bad diagnosis cannot ever lead us to a good treatment plan.
So…we are urged to focus not so much on what is sinful in people…
- But…rather…on what is broken…and needs to be treated…to restore the person to health and wholeness.
- So…then…forgiveness can help victims see that nobody who is whole and happy and well…
- Would have done what he or she did.
- And it can move perpetrators to seek…the very forgiveness they need…
- To become the people God created them to be…
- Loving…forgiving…generous…
happy and wholesome.
Even if the passage we read from Matthew today about forgiveness sounds harsh and hard…
- Maybe that is Jesus trying to get us to pay attention…
- So…that we can both give and receive the enormous gift of forgiveness in a way that is truly healing.
- We do not give forgiveness as an act of cheap grace.
- No…that does no one much good.
- Rather…we are moved to offer forgiveness because we ourselves are forgiven people…
- Who want to share…with others…that remarkable state of being whole and well and healed.
- Will forgiveness be easy?
- Almost never.
- But can it be healing?
- Yes…that is its true gift.