Matthew 18:15-20
In Chapter 18 of Matthew’s Gospel…Jesus gives the disciples some practices that are essential for sustaining
healthy Christian communities.
- Many of these practices have to do with honoring the little ones among us…
- Those who have the least power within a community…
- Therefore…Jesus reminds the disciples to act with great care and humility in dealing with the least powerful among them.
- It is no accident that right before today’s story…the parable of the lost sheep occurs.
- This parable is about a shepherd who leaves 99 sheep to go and search for one little sheep who has gone astray.
- If the shepherd finds the lost sheep…we are told…there will be much rejoicing over it…
- More rejoicing than the 99 sheep who never went astray…
- Because it is not God’s will that one of these little ones be lost.
In today’s scripture…Jesus offers some advice on confronting (encountering) another who sins against you.
- This idea of confronting was based on interpretations in Leviticus (19:17-18) that said:
- One should not allow anger to simmer inside…but confront one’s brother…friend or neighbor.
- The Lord be with you.
Conflict…Confrontation…Many of us do everything in our power to avoid
these things such as…
- Trying to shove it under the rug or gossiping about it or playing passive-aggressive games or taking sides…
- Or using our silence to intimidate or using the pulpit to shame people or abandoning our community of faith altogether.
- I was taught that if I did not have anything nice to say…not to say anything at all.
It is human nature to avoid conflict and confrontation.
- The phrase…we need to talk…makes our stomach do flips…
- Because we know it means that something is broken between us…and we need to sort it out.
Social media has become one of the primary ways some handle conflict…and it is rarely…if ever…a healthy model.
- People talk more about one another than they talk with one another.
- Just as writing someone a letter feels
like a dying art…
So does having difficult face-to-face conversations feel close to extinction.
- Meanwhile conflicts continue to brew and fester and to further complicate matters…
- We are living in a time of major polarization…hostility and conflict.
The church does not like conflict either…because the church is made up of
people.
- Conflict was present in the early church…just as it is today.
- It is still much easier to shun people than it is to listen and confront.
- What is interesting is how much energy and work we put into avoiding confrontation…
- Yet Jesus seems to expect and welcome it.
- The question is not whether we will wound each other with our words and actions…but how we should proceed when we do.
- In our gospel text this morning Jesus offers us a radically different path in dealing with conflict…
- A path that encourages the church to have honest face-to-face dialogue and not to keep silent with behavior that harms others.
- A path where confrontation is a necessary companion on the road to reconciliation.
- Jesus tells us plainly that the way we conduct relationships here and now has direct consequences for God’s coming kingdom:
- Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven…and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
Though this text is concerned with church discipline in a time of conflict…the end goal is not punishment or blame.
- The end goal is reconciliation…a family reunion…not retribution.
- Reconciliation involves relationships being restored…by both parties…
- Both of whom stand condemned and forgiven at the cross and are willing to work together in the restoration.
There are two curious things about Jesus’ advice here:
- One…he puts the burden of confronting on the one who has been sinned against…
- And two…he does not seem as interested in who is right and wrong as he is in getting the family back together again.
- Jesus wants us to try and regain a brother or a sister in Christ.
As Christians…we are not in the business of calling people out and further exiling them…
- But rather calling them in and inviting them to reconcile.
- Some have misinterpreted the verse about when all else has failed in confronting a person…treat them like a Gentile or a tax collector.
- Some have misinterpreted this to mean excommunication…exile or otherwise shunning the individual.
- Yes…Gentiles and tax collectors were seen as outsiders.
- Yet…in Matthew’s Gospel…we are shown over and over again how Jesus treated Gentiles and tax collectors…of which Matthew was one…with love and forgiveness.
- Instead of an exclusive love…which declares…You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy…
- Jesus commands an inclusive love…which declares…Love your enemies.
- As followers of Christ…we are asked to practice reconciliation rather than estrangement…love rather than hatred…forgiveness rather than prejudice…inclusivity rather than exclusivity.
I have been at this ministry thing for many years now…
- And over those years I have had things said to me that hurt me…
- And…I have said things to others in the congregations I have served where I have hurt or offended others.
- And on those occasions…I have needed to go to that hurt person or persons and apologize and ask for their forgiveness.
Though we don’t control another person’s behavior nor the outcome…as Christ’s disciples…we are responsible for how we treat one another.
- In a lot of ways…it is a real nuisance to belong to a family.
- Listening is hard…and this work of confronting and reconciling undergirded in love is challenging.
- Jesus is not talking about some kumbaya…let’s just sit around…sing songs…and hold hands.
- Yet…our being together is the chief means God has chosen for being with us.
- Our life together in a community of faith is the place where we are comforted…confronted…tested…and redeemed by God through one another.
Jesus knows that the disciples need each other.
- They need each other because two heads are better than one…
- They need each other because they can accomplish more together than they can apart…
- They need each other like brothers and sisters need each other…
- To remind themselves that they belong to one family.
In times of crisis the wise build bridges…while the foolish build barriers.
- As the body of Christ…we are one single family and Christ calls us to build bridges way more than barriers.
- In baptism…we are adopted into a new family and into a new way of existing in the world.
- If we are going to live in relationship with the One to whom we have been reconciled to God…
- It demands that we be a reconciling community.
- Christ’s promise to us…especially in our times of conflict and confrontation…is that he is with us.
There is a promise that God desires to be reconciled to us and we to each other…
- And that when we seek reconciliation…Christ is present.
The gospel invites us to forsake the ways of playing the world’s games…
- And to follow the good way of Christ.
- For God’s ability to get things right is always more powerful than our ability to get things wrong.
- So…let us do this hard work and live our lives worthy of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.